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Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Another Year Bites the Dust

This was the last ornament I packed away....a millennium purchase from almost a decade ago. I was newly married with pre-teen son, moving into a new life. This 2009, I begin my third year divorced and my son will graduate from college. He struggles to identify what he wants to do with his life. I do not write about him though; I know he wouldn't want to be shared in public. He wants little, doesn't need "stuff", and sees life from a minimalist point of view. Some characteristics I should strive for. I swore I would not blog about New Years resolutions. We all know how dangerous they can be.... self deprecating, self defeating, humiliating, damaging to ones self esteem, etc, etc. The concept of New Years resolutions does nothing but force one to look at what is bad, negative, or wrong with their life. Search and identify your personal failures. Then berate yourself 12 months from now when you fail to change; again. Well heck, I just can't resist. Sorry. I just can't pass on the opportunity to point out to the world (all 10 of you readers...on a good day) all the things I have failed miserably at. Too much fun to be had there! And my New Years list is very practical. I don't aspire to achieve things that are not possible for me to affect. I can't make world peace, I can't make people love me differently, and I can't seem to win the lottery.....but here is what I will do in 2009.
I will reduce my debt
I will get rid of some of the junk in my house
I will paint more
I will read more
I will be nicer to the people I work with ...
And I will quit worrying over what they are getting away with, stealing, gossiping about, getting paid, and cheating the company out of. In short, I will mind my own biz.
I will pray and give thanks more
I will laugh more, specifically I will laugh at myself more
I will do more work on my yard this year
I will clean out my garage
I will control my impatience and road rage :)
and of course, I can try once again to
lose the weight
And I will blog about these in more detail...lucky you!!!


Anonymous said...

"and I can't seem to win the lottery"

Yeah, what's up with that?

Good luck with the resolutions and Happy New Year!

NCmountainwoman said...

Hard to believe that Y2K was almost ten years ago! I don't make resolutions, but I do make a list of goals. Somehow that seems more flexible and allows me to reflect on progress rather than meeting the whole resolution.

Happy New Year!

Day Traveler said...

I don't make resolutions either. It's enough for me to take life one day at a time. Just do the best I can with what I have and with what I'm willing to persue.

I just saw a story about a 79 (?) year old man that bought a lottery ticket and won 10 million. A twenty year tradition with his wife. Sad for him that later in the afternoon, he had a heart attack. It's good that a man can leave his wife of 59 years so well situated in retirement.

Anonymous said...

I can't help but be infected with the sense of Hope that the new year brings and I kind of like the idea of new years resolutions. I hope that each year brings a certain amount of personal growth and how can there be growth without realizing where growth needs to happen.. I don't really see our flaws as failures... but merely part of the human condition... parts that, with the passage of every year we have the choice and chance to improve on. I wish you all the best with yours. Your list and mine are the first step... and if we don't make it... well then there is always next year. :-)

Jonas said...

I just wanna bake cookies...

bernthis said...

I'm in my fourth year of divorce and I can now honestly say that I like myself. Yep, that's right. I like myself and for all that being married brought with it (a better social life) I know now that being with someone you don't love is NOT better than being alone with someone you do (yourself)

A lot of those resolutions are very attainable. There is nothing wrong with a wish list. Bottom line, at the end of the year, if you didn't do any of them,you're still a hell of a woman.

BlackenedBoy said...

Those are all realistic and healthy goals.

I haven't given much thought to your son, who's only a little bit older than I am.

I'm curious, but I understand. I know several bloggers whose children I would love to see write a few posts of their own, but the general trend seems to be for young people to shy away from that.

pat said...

Sorry, there are things you might share and discuss with "cyber friends/strangers"...but that you would never want shared with people you know in real life, much less your family. This is a place to express things you DON"T get to express in everyday life. At least it is for me anyway. You weren't fond of your mother finding your blog were you?